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February Write Day: Smaller Steps

On By Steven D'AdamoIn On LifeLeave a comment

Well, January has been… interesting. Being in the U.S., there has basically been a near-constant barrage of infuriating news/rumors ever since the inauguration, and it’s been tough to keep up with and also maintain my own sanity.

I also just discovered that someone basically stole my domain, I assume to siphon SEO traffic off it — this is the only logical reason I can think of, and it’s not at all comforting.

So, if you’ve been trying to access my website for the last month and hitting a DNS error, I deeply apologize. This is a blatant testament to the fact that I have not put much thought into this endeavor in recent weeks. I was able to access my WordPress site without issue, and had no need to visit my own website to check that it was working properly.

Ugh. Anyway.

I’ve been trying to get a better handle on balancing all the various priorities in my life. I think the last few months have felt like trying to scoop up sand with my bare hands, only for the grains to sift through my fingers, so I’m never able to do as much as I want or need to.

My brain is cluttered, and I end up vacillating on what my “real” priority should be in any given moment.

Focusing on Small Acts

I’m trying to focus only on small acts — across the board in my life. I have an incredible skill/curse of always being able to see the forest for the trees, but sometimes feeling overwhelmed by it.

Writing. Exercise. Family. Community engagement. I think about these things in terms of grand gestures and statements, rather than small acts I can build routines and habits around. I need to remember how to play the long game again.

So, that will be a focus of this monthly series for some time.

Last Month’s Goals

  1. Read three books.
  2. All the routines, but more.

Read three books?

Just one – Blackfish City by Sam J. Miller, for which I have yet to write a full review. I also made progress on three others and ended up finishing one of those right at the beginning of February.

It is far too early to be concerned about my GoodReads Challenge of 24 books. Small acts!

All the routine, but more?

I think I’ve done alright on the exercise front, where I’ve managed to intentionally do some kind of physical activity and track my progress several times per week. What I haven’t done is get back to the gym in any meaningful way — maybe once in January.

I haven’t made much progress on the writing front, either, but I have definitely been thinking about it more and more. I used to think about my fantasy universe, Úr’Dan, every single day, turning over story details and ideas in my head constantly.

While I have managed to think about my writing more in recent weeks, it’s been more in the vein of how I want to publish and to what extent I want to market my books. At this point, I just need to get back to writing, and I think I’m in a better place to do that now than I have been in about a year.

Goals for February

  1. Finish three books. I’ve already got one down, since I finished the massive encyclopedia of The World of Ice and Fire, by George R.R. Martin. This took me several months to read in little sections at a time, so I wish I could count that effort, but I’m at least 1/3 of the way through my February goal.
    • Current reads: Aspects by John M. Ford; and We Were Eight Years in Power: An American Tragedy, by Ta-Nehisi Coates.
    • I’m not far enough in either of those to really think about my next reads yet. I may pick up a paperback of The Hobbit, just for comfort. It’s my all-time favorite.
  2. Small acts – Exercise. Bare minimum: stretch and meditate every day, and if I do any of the following in addition, that’s ideal.
    • Bronze medal: short yoga session
    • Silver medal: longer yoga session and/or resistance training at home
    • Gold medal: 1-hour gym session
  3. Small acts – Writing. Bare minimum: get back to posting here every Wednesday and Sunday, and not just haiku. Achieving some combination of the following throughout a given week is ideal.
    • Bronze medal: basic admin for this site, my email, my imprint, etc.
    • Silver medal: take notes, or organize older notes
    • Gold medal: Revise/rewrite my duology in, at least a 15-minute focus session

I want to make progress. I just need to narrow my mental energy to the here-and-now.

Steve D

January Write Day: Same Routines

On By Steven D'AdamoIn Fantasy, On LifeLeave a comment

The holidays have come and gone, and we had a good time over several family engagements. Both of our boys were off school/daycare for over a week, but we managed to fill most of the time with activities or family gatherings. Now, it’s back to the routine.

I spent quite a bit of energy in December trying to organize/reorganize things at home: toys or clothes our boys have outgrown, storage space, holiday decorations, etc. These are the types of things that prick at the edges of my mind until I do something about them, so I’ve tried. There are a few more big items I’d like to tackle as well, such as getting a shed installed to help us organize our yard tools, our garage, and other storage areas.

Last Month’s Goals

  1. Read three books.
    • Current reads: A World of Ice and Fire by George R.R. Martin, and The End of the Story, Collected Fantasies of Clark Ashton Smith, Book 1.
    • Likely next reads: I’m eyeing The Map of Salt and Stars by Zeyn Joukhadar in my Audible library. Not a series, but an intriguing fantasy novel nonetheless.
  2. All the routines, but more.

Read three books?

Yes! I finished four books in December:

  • Behind You is the Sea, by Susan Muaddi Darraj
  • The End of the Story, Collected Fantasies of Clark Ashton Smith, Book 1
  • The Serviceberry: Abundance and Reciprocity in the Natural World, by Robin Wall Kimmerer
  • The Good Turn, by Dervla McTiernan

That last one was less than two hours long, and I definitely chose to read it to meet my goal more than anything else. My decent December reading helped get just a bit closer to my GoodReads Challenge goal for 2024. I had set out to read 30 books this past year, an all-time high for me, but only got to 24. I’ve set my goal for 2025 to 24, as that’s clearly been within my usual range the last few years.

All the routines?

Somewhat. I was a bit more consistent with exercise in December, although not as consistent or dedicated as I would have liked. I didn’t do any writing (or perhaps only one writing session).

On the writing front, I’ve stalled in the midst of a read-through of Uprooted, the first of my novella duology. I came to a section that I wanted to rewrite and reframe entirely, to better introduce characters and backstory, and haven’t had the energy to dig into it.

I’m hoping focusing on this section early in January will help me get back into it more routinely.

Goals for January

  1. Read three books. Even though my GoodReads challenge is only 24 books, I’d like to beat that number this year.
    • Current reads: A World of Ice and Fire by George R.R. Martin, and Blackfish City, by Sam J. Miller
    • Likely next reads: The Map of Salt and Stars by Zeyn Joukhadar, and not sure what else.
  2. All the routines, but more. Exercise and writing, while trying to stay organized around the house.

Steve D

December Write Day: Tentative

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November flew by. We had a great Thanksgiving, and aside from some significant work events for me, I don’t really remember what happened last month.

Our 11-year-old dog has been moving slowly, and we finally learned he has arthritis in his hips. A couple medications have him as perky as ever. We haven’t finished putting up our outdoor holiday decorations, and this week we’ve finally gotten a bit of the rain that the Mid-Atlantic has sorely needed. I’ll just need to wait for a clear day.

Last Month’s Goals

  1. Read three books.
  2. All the routines, but more.

Read three books?

No, but I still made decent progress. I finished An Afro-Indigenous History of the United States by Kyle T. Mays and Behind You Is the Sea by Susan Muaddi Darraj, and I continued my long journey through George R.R. Martin’s A World of Ice and Fire.

I’m also listening through the first volume of a collection of stories by Clark Ashton Smith, a fantasy author who wrote during the 1910s, ’20s, and ’30s. I’m still deciding which series I’m going to dive into next, and I’m hoping to do so this month, when I have a week off work around the holidays.

I’m not on pace for my Goodreads challenge of 36 books this year, but I’m not that upset about it.

All the routines… but more?

Meh. I’ve been a bit more consistent about working out, but I still haven’t dedicated the time to it I had really intended. But it’s definitely making a difference to just do something on a regular basis.

Writing did not progress much in November. If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been terribly absent from this site as well. I’m definitely still interested in my current routine of haiku, book reviews, and the occasional “blog” type update, but nothing more at the moment. I’ve found it difficult to sit down at my laptop for a dedicated amount of time, for a variety of reasons.

So, I’m just keeping it in my mind for this month without explicit pressure.

Goals for December

  1. Read three books.
    • Current reads: A World of Ice and Fire by George R.R. Martin, and The End of the Story, Collected Fantasies of Clark Ashton Smith, Book 1.
    • Likely next reads: I’m eyeing The Map of Salt and Stars by Zeyn Joukhadar in my Audible library. Not a series, but an intriguing fantasy novel nonetheless.
  2. All the routines, but more. Again, just trying to develop more consistency with exercise and writing. A continuous work-in-progress.

Steve D