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On Moving and Opportunities

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We’re moving this week. We bought a new house about 15 minutes away from our current house and are now in the process of transporting as much stuff as possible over this week. Saturday is the big move-in day, with a big rental truck, and big furniture, and big plans to be living in the new house full-time come Saturday evening.

Moving to new places comes with a lot of stress, soon to be followed by the stress of selling our current house.

It also comes with new opportunities, aside from adjusting to a living space that we believe and hope will enable us to build the family life we’ve talked about for years.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how my day-to-day life can change with our new house, and I’m trying to temper my own expectations but also remain open to those possibilities.

We will have a nice front porch and back patio to relax on, readily accessible from the house and also far enough from the noise of our road to feel somewhat private. I’d like to think we will spend many comfortable mornings, and afternoons, and evenings sitting and talking in our outdoor spaces with friends and family.

We will have both a grocery store and a gym (of a reliable franchise brand) less than ten minutes’ walk from my doorstep. Will I be able to reclaim a slice of the walkable suburban lifestyle I had grown so accustomed to during grad school? I sure hope so. I’m excited about the idea of walking to the store with my 4-year-old to pick up milk on a Wednesday night.

We will have a finished basement, soon-to-be-playroom, where our sons can have a space to play and yell and make messes that do not feel disruptive to the flow of our main living, dining, and kitchen areas.

We will have sidewalks in a quieter area removed from main roads and throughways. I hope I will feel comfortable letting our kids roam the neighborhood without fear of cars speeding by every three minutes.

We will have a backyard that is a relatively flat blank slate — just a cement patio and grass right now that, with patience, we can evolve into a vibrant, welcoming, and pleasant garden and play area.

I think we have a lot of hopes and dreams for our new house, and that’s what’s exciting about it. The opportunities it provides us affirm our decision to move. It will be fun to see these opportunities play out.

Steve D

July Write Day: Some Changes

On By Steven D'AdamoIn FantasyLeave a comment

June went by pretty fast, but it’s been a good month. I mostly kept to my newly established routines, and we bought a new house. Or… are buying. We haven’t closed yet.

My wife and I came into this year knowing we wanted to do some serious house-shopping and find the home we wanted to stay in long-term, that gave us a little extra space, and in a neighborhood that gave us access to the things we value.

We found that house much more quickly than we expected, somehow avoided a bidding war, and are moving towards an early closing date with our financing in place. We’re moving in like ten days, which is crazy to think about.

So, July will be quite the month for us. Let’s see how June went.

Last Month’s Goals

  1. Do something writing related at least every other day.
  2. Read three books.
  3. Exercise every day.

Do something writing related at least every other day?

Almost. Strictly speaking, I did something writing-related 14 out of 30 days in June. As I wrote a couple weeks ago, I think this method of tracking a loose writing schedule can largely work for me going forward, but I want to make some tweaks.

Out of 14 days-on-which-I-wrote-something, here’s what I worked on:

  • 5 haiku
  • 3 blogs
  • 1 DnD character background
  • 5 revision sessions for Uprooted

Those 5 days spent on haiku bug me, not because I don’t enjoy writing haiku — I do — but because it doesn’t take me very long to write those, and I think I can dedicate more time to other writing endeavors. I spent only 5 days on revisions for Uprooted. I largely achieved my goal with that story for the month, but I could have done more.

For July, I’m going to continue writing weekly haiku, obviously, but only in addition to bigger writing efforts. In writing this post, for instance, I will also be writing my haiku for this week. So instead of spending an extra day writing only one haiku, I’ll need to make sure I carve out time for other writing efforts.

We’ll see how it goes.

Read three books?

Nope. I did a good bit of reading in June, but I didn’t finish a single book. I was just focused on other things. I finally caught up on The Mandalorian season three, and I like to listen to the reaction/analysis podcasts on The Ringer-Verse. So, those episodes have taken up a lot of my listening time I might have otherwise spent on audiobooks.

I’m still working my way through the same three books I have been, including A Memory of Light. I’ve made progress, so July should be a bit better for reading goals.

Exercise every day?

Almost. I missed one day, and seven days I only managed to stretch a bit. June was a busy week for me at work, so I definitely didn’t have the energy or time to workout every day. I like this routine, and I’m hoping to expand on it a bit in July. For now, it’s working well for me.

Goals for July

  1. Write something every other day. The only real change here is to not count haiku as a single writing session. Hopefully, this will help me spend more time on my main work-in-progress, Uprooted and New Earth.
  2. Move to the next stage for my stories. I’d like to take the next step with these novellas. I think that will be to revise New Earth, even though I still have some clean-up to do in Uprooted. I would just like to make meaningful progress on these, because I feel like I haven’t for a couple months.
  3. Read three books. Same same.
  4. Exercise every day. Also same same, but I may have an opportunity to change this up a bit this month. More on that later on.

Steve D

Rethinking the Writing Routine

On By Steven D'AdamoIn Creativity Sessions, FantasyLeave a comment

One of my goals for this month is to write something at least every other day.

This is a bit of a new approach to writing for me, so I wanted to unpack it a bit and see how it’s going for me so far.

Writing Routines of Yore

I used to be able to sit down for a couple hours on a given evening and write several pages, or revise entire chapters. I have never been a write-every-day kind of writer, but I was definitely productive enough to publish a novel and several shorter stories after that.

Those days are long gone. At least, they are not very accessible to me at this point. I’ve struggled to maintain much of a writing routine since the height of the pandemic, when I was in the middle of drafting Uprooted. Those two-hour writing sessions only come a handful of times per month, if that, and that is not enough to write meaningfully.

Similar to my evolving exercise routine, I’ve slowly come to the realization that I need to do something different with my writing routine.

A Writing Routine for Normal Life

What I’ve always struggled to establish is a consistent writing routine in which I could pick away at projects bit by bit. Since I’m not an everyday-writer type, I need to find a different solution. That’s why my goal for this month is to write at least every other day.

I’ve elected to try tracking my writing every other day. I’m also tracking my writing differently.

I’ve always separated my writing from anything I did for this site. I used to have the bandwidth to manage this site separately from my actual writing routines. I’d write posts for this site, and then get some writing done. I just don’t have time to do that at the moment, and I need to stop making myself feel guilty for not writing, even when I need to spend some energy blogging.

So, any form of writing counts for my new routine: haiku, blogs, revisions, DnD character backgrounds. Any way in which I can exercise my creative writing muscles counts towards my goal of writing every other day in a given month.

Progress So Far

Here’s a quick rundown of how I’ve kept up with writing through the first 20 days of the month:

  • 3 haiku
  • 3 blogs
  • 3 revision sessions for Uprooted
  • 1 session working on a new Dungeons & Dragons character sheet

That’s 10 days out of 20, exactly every other day (ultimately, if not in practice. I’ve had to focus on writing sessions three days in a row once to keep up with my goal.)

I think this routine is working for me. It’s giving me the space to spend time on things I both need and want to spend time on, whether it’s keeping this site afloat, preparing for a new DnD campaign I’m really excited about, or working on my “big” work-in-progress novellas.

Overall, I need to hold myself accountable while being flexible with what I work on on a given day.

Steve D

Rebuilding the Exercise Routine, One Day at a Time

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I mentioned in my June Write Day post last week that I had achieved my goal of exercising every day throughout the month of May. I’m very pleased and proud with this achievement. I haven’t had a regular workout routine since sometime during the pandemic.

For the 15ish years between high school and my early thirties, I had a regular gym routine focused on strength training. During that span, I trained with weights, running, swimming, boxing, and rock climbing, and I was able to evolve my routine over time as I moved places and my lifestyle shifted. That all changed when I was laid off in 2019 and lost access to my former employer’s amazing gym. I tried to reestablish a routine at a gym near our house, and then everything fell apart in 2020.

Starting a New Routine

So I’d like to take a look at my routine in May and see how it’s developed. This is partially a way for me to glean an early routine again. Now, I had three main principles for my daily exercise routine for May:

  1. Do anything, regardless of how tired I was. Even if it was just a 10-minute stretch, I needed to prove to myself that I could proactively do something each and every day, regardless of how small.
  2. Focus on small goals. I didn’t go for intricate, 30- or 60-minute workouts from the jump. I knew I needed to build up to that — and I’m still building up to that.
  3. Be responsive to how my body feels. If I felt like I had the energy, I’d do something more intensive. If I felt worn down and just wanted to decompress, I’d focus on stretching and movement.

Building the New Routine

I’m not going to go day-by-day, but I’d like to trace my progress over the month of May to demonstrate how a decent routine can be built in tiny steps.

Week 1

  • 4 days of basic stretching
  • 2 days of resistance training
  • 1 day with a 20-minute yoga session

Week 2

  • 4 days with a 10-minute yoga session
  • 2 days of resistance training
  • 1 day with 4km of walking

Here’s an overview of my first two weeks. Week 1 was heavy on stretching, while week 2 I managed to do a lot of yoga. I also took advantage of a family trip to an amusement park to get in a ton of walking, which I think counts for something.

Week 3

  • 3 days of resistance training
  • 2 days with a 15-minute yoga session
  • 1 day with a 10-minute yoga session
  • Unexpected and unexpectedly difficult trampoline workout

Week 4+ (Last 10 days)

  • 1 day of basic stretching
  • 2 days with a 10-minute yoga session
  • 3 days with a 15- or 20-minute yoga session
  • 3 days of resistancec training
  • 1 day of kayaking, 1300m sprint

Notice in the final two weeks, I started doing longer yoga sessions. You can’t see it in the above, but I also tried to vary the types of workouts I did, as well. I took advantage of a family play date / dinner date at our friends’ house to play on their trampoline with our kids, which was so much more tiring than I expected. I also used one of our regular summer lake trips to kayak, something I love to do and really love the workout.

Continuing the Routine

The point is, once I committed to exercising every day, I was able to quickly ramp up to more intense workouts and dedicate more time to my routine each day. I don’t have a firm routine set yet, but I think it’s plain to see one had started to emerge in the second half of the month, effectively splitting time between resistance training and yoga.

Now I just need to find the time to kayak more.

Steve D